I’m becoming that person…
…that rants about school stuff. Dealwithit.gif.
I passed a school today on an errand with a giant sign boasting “No Bullying Zone! We are ZERO tolerance!” As a School Counselor I’m so sick of seeing this. For most schools it means “We crack down on any bullying we see so kids just come up with sneakier ways to be mean to each other!” In other schools it means “We kick bullies out so they might be your problem next!” Boasting about being zero tolerance to bullying is like saying a city is zero crime. It’s nice to dream about, but the fact is that we can all make some sad choices sometimes and without true reform programs those who make repeated sad choices never learn to make smart choices.
I want to make a sign for my school that says “We love our bullies (into being better citizens)!” Kids choose behaviors because they worked for them at some point. This video is an amazing eye opener about how bullies come to be. Kick them out or isolate them, and you’re only part of the problem.
Give kids a TRUE safe space. Make them feel safe and loved and valued. Teach them coping skills. Give them choices and opportunities to succeed. This is what change is about.